My name is Maya, 35 years old, living with my husband Paolo and our little daughter Ana – who just turned 10 – in a rented apartment in Quezon City. In my eyes, Ana is the world: obedient, studious and very affectionate. But as she grows older, she has more and more difficult things to say. It was not until one day that I realized that I had let her endure too much.

It all started on the weekends, when Paolo often took Ana to visit her paternal grandparents in Malolos, Bulacan. At first, I thought it was a good thing: Lola (grandma) and Lolo also needed their grandchildren to keep them company. But recently, every time she returned from her paternal grandparents’ house, Ana became unusually quiet. One day, she went into her room, buried her face in her pillow and sobbed. I asked her, but she just shook her head:

– I’m fine, don’t worry…

That answer made my heart burn like fire. I tried to ask Paolo, but he snapped:

– You think too much. It’s normal for children to cry a little, don’t overthink it!

But my motherly instinct told me: something was wrong. And I decided to do something that still makes me shudder when I think about it.

The next day, before Paolo took Ana back to Bulacan, I secretly hid a small voice recorder in the pocket of her jeepney-shaped backpack. My heart pounded as I zipped it up—partly because I blamed myself for being suspicious, partly because I needed the truth.

That afternoon, when Ana returned, as expected, she was sobbing again. I held her, my heart aching, but on the surface I pretended to be calm. When she fell asleep, I turned on the voice recorder.

The sound made me freeze.

My mother-in-law’s voice – Lola Luz – hissed, viciously:

– This girl, just like her mother. What kind of woman doesn’t know how to give birth to a son. If you don’t study hard to make money later, I’ll throw you away!

Ana’s voice choked up:
– I… I’ll try. Don’t hate me…

I felt like my heart was being squeezed. A child is only ten years old, why must she bear such cruel words?

Not stopping there, Paolo’s voice rang out, cold and unfamiliar:
– What you said is right, Mom. She is just a girl, she will get married in the future, what’s the point. Don’t spoil her too much.

I trembled, tears falling. It turned out that all this time, the person I trusted the most was indifferent, even agreeing to let my daughter be oppressed like that.

I sat by the bed, looking at Ana’s sleeping face with tears, my heart both sad and angry. During the day, she smiled and talked to me, but behind her back, she was under pressure from her own family.

The next morning, I asked Paolo to sit in the small living room, the sunlight of Quezon City shining through the window. I placed the recorder on the table, pressed the play button. Those sounds echoed in the middle of the room, making Paolo pale. I looked straight at him:
– Is this what you call “normal”? She’s only 10 years old! She needs love, not contempt.

He stammered:
– I… I just want to teach her to be tougher…

I laughed, but it was a laugh filled with pain:
– Being tough by making her feel unlovable? Do you know how much she cried every time she came home from her grandparents’ house?

Paolo was silent, looking down. For the first time, I saw shame in his eyes.

That night, I hugged Ana and whispered:
– Ana, I know you’ve suffered a lot of unhappy things. You don’t need to force yourself. Being true to yourself is enough, I’m always by your side.

She was stunned, then burst into tears:
– Mom… I thought you wouldn’t believe me. I was afraid that if I told you, you’d be sad…

I hugged her tightly. At that moment, I understood: there is no greater pain than a child having to endure it alone.

From that day on, I was determined: Ana would never go back to her paternal home alone. If she visited, both mother and daughter would go, and I would be there. I was ready to face my husband’s family in Bulacan, ready to protect my daughter at all costs. Because for me, as a mother, nothing was more important than letting my daughter grow up in complete love.

The truth revealed by the tape recorder caused a rift in my family, but also helped me see clearly what needed to be preserved: my daughter’s tears were never considered a small matter. In the midst of the noisy Quezon City, Ana and I began to establish new peaceful days—where she was listened to, loved, and no longer had to fear every time someone said, “Come back to Bulacan this weekend.”